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How to Live a Life of Your Dreams


Forever is composed of nows. ~ Emily Dickinson

Living your dreams can seem like a lofty goal. Sure, we all have things we want to achieve, stuff we’d love to accomplish, and dreams we’d love to have come true.

Whether we know what we want, or even if we don’t, sometimes we feel a vague sense of dissatisfaction with life.

It feels like something’s lost… something’s missing.

Perhaps you’re at an in-between place, unsure of the future. Maybe there are circumstances preventing you from living life how you’d really like to. You still go about taking care of your obligations and chores, tasks and responsibilities, but life seems routine and uninspired. Goals begin to lose their luster and nothing seems energizing.

I know when I end up in this place, it means I’ve stopped creating. I’m not talking about creating in the traditional sense. I’m talking about the creativity required to consciously create the life you want, the one of your dreams, day by day, one moment at a time.

I’m not talking about the big things here. They require lots of waiting and some of them may never happen. The biggest things, the things we might feel are lacking and are wishing for most, are really just symbols. Symbols for simpler, more meaningful experiences we can create right now. The stuff happiness is made of.

Creating puts us back in touch with our aliveness. We are all part of that miraculous energy that makes everything new, lighter, and more joyous. Every one of us is co-creating our lives everyday, whether we do it consciously or not. So why not include your dreams in your daily experience?

The trick is to break those big dreams into smaller parts and incorporate those into your life:

Say, for example, you’re longing for a nicer, bigger place to live.  If you ask yourself what you’d do once you had that place, what would be different about your life and your day, your answer might look like this: Well, I’d have more space, so I’d be more organized. If I were more organized, I’d have more free time. With my free time, I’d do more things I enjoy. I’d cook more in my nicer kitchen and have more company in my bigger space. The list could go on, but I think you get the idea.

But let’s stop right there. When you think about it, the bigger, nice house is not required. It’s just a symbol your mind has attached to represent the experiences you’re really longing for: more simplicity, more fun at home, more things you enjoy, more company. (Things you can have now). That ingredient list, the things we come up when we question what we’d do if we had what we think we want, is really the stuff of our dreams. It’s usually never the house itself (or whatever else your mind is convinced it needs).

Everyone does this. It’s easy for our minds to do. Sometimes we think we want a new relationship when in reality we’re longing to take better care of ourselves. Sometimes we wish we had more rewarding work but then we realize we’re sacrificing deeper parts of ourselves outside of our jobs rather than in them.

Deep inside, your soul (or the deepest part of you) always knows what you need, and it’s usually always simple. Your mind can (and will) attach something more complex to those needs and create a symbol for them, something you can go out and “attain” or “achieve”.

See what’s beneath those symbols. Question them. Break them open and find out what they contain. Then gather those pieces, forget about “achieving” them, and instead start creating them, today.

Use your imaginationLive those experiences in your life, every day that you can. This way you can experience your dreams, regardless of what you have or don’t have, what you’ve accomplished or what you haven’t. And the best part is, you don’t have to wait, you can do it right now. :)

Enjoy the little things in life, for one day you may look back
and realize they were the big things
. ~Antonio Smith

This part requires more filling in.  Give it three to five minutes.  Try to write down all the things you would be doing, what your life and day would look like.  Go into as much detail as possible.  Then stop.
Now, take a look at what you’ve written. The keys to your happiness are right there in the “I would” part of your statement.  Why delay? Why not start doing them?  We can take them in small steps, easy chunks, but the key is to start doing them.
So go ahead and stop making lists.
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14 comments… add one

  • Hey Miche, amazing article and really inspiring! I agree that the bigger house is just a symbol, and many times when we finally have the bigger house we want even more, and that’s not always good because we are never happy.
    .-= Oscar – freestyle mind´s last blog ..I’m Joining the Power of Less =-.

  • Thanks for writing this! I’ve been incubating an article about how to reach for our longings, as a followup to inviting your longing to tea and I love your take on it. You navigated between the possible hazards of “you should be able to manifest that” and “your goals are unrealistic” to a compassionate, clear post. Much appreciated!

  • Hi Sonia, thanks for the compliment! Eliminating the “shoulds” from my life was so liberating, but they still creep up now and then! When I eliminate what I think (or the world thinks) I should have or should be doing, I’m free. Free to create my own happiness.

    The things in life that have made me the happiest have all been things I’ve created out of nothing, not things I “achieved”. I like the idea of “inviting your longing to tea”. Tea is so peaceful! It’s true when we sit with our feelings without distractions there’s so much we can learn. Stuff that can’t be found anywhere outside of ourselves. ;)

  • Agreed that eliminating “shoulds” is wonderful. I’ve been bailing them out of my life by the bucketful, but there must be a leak somewhere – seems like there are always more to get rid of. For me, it’s an ongoing process.

    Glad to hear you’re finding happiness!

  • Great post! You’ve just changed the course of my day! Thank you.

  • Hi Miche!

    Great observations and writing here.

    One way I think about this, too, is also related to how we eat and take care of ourselves, physically. You, know, when people are bored a lot of times they (including yours truly!) go to the refrigerator, when they (or me!) really aren’t hungry.

    If we look deeper, as you said, “your soul (or the deepest part of yourself) knows what you need, and it’s usually always simple.” Maybe they (or me!) simply needs to get out for a walk. (?)

    Thanks for a great post today. Enjoy your weekend!
    .-= Lori´s last blog ..Find a Passion for Writing =-.

    • Hey Lori, totally agreed! When I wonder aimlessly to the kitchen it usually means I’m usually tuning something else out, resisting something more meaningful. It’s often something I might not want to think about…. having the cookie is easier than going for the walk! :)

  • Nazim, thanks for stopping by, and I’m glad to help!! :)

  • I followed you via your comment on The Rat Race Trap … although I wasn’t sure what I’d find based on the post’s title.

    I’m glad I did. I greatly appreciate the reminder I am reading in your words. When my life turned crazy on me, I somehow changed from a “happiness is now” focus to one where I feel I will be happy when…. kind of thing. Feeling stuck is not a good feeling at all. So, thank you for the reminder!
    .-= Suzanne´s last blog ..Quote to Reflect Upon (Oct09) =-.

  • Miche, This is so very true. My thoughts on all this have really come around in the last year and I have become totally convinced we have it all within ourselves to create all that we need. The stuff we think we need to make it happen would probably just mess it all up for us.
    .-= Stephen – Rat Race Trap´s last blog ..Peak-End Experiences Matter Most =-.

    • Hi Stephen, thanks for stopping by. I love Rat Race Trap!!! I’m sort of a case of two extremes. Sometimes I’m gunning toward a goal and other times I’m in a “let life happen” mode. Either way, when I feel stuck or uninspired, I know I’m neglecting something. I’ve usually always found that what I’m missing is something I can make happen relatively easily, if I ask myself the right questions. I’m all for going with the flow, but I want to feel aliveness while flowing, know what I mean? ;)

  • Hi Miche,

    This is my first time to your site and it’s a real treasure chest of wonderful surprises. Congratulations!

    I first read this excellent post a few days ago. Then re read it several times. Slowly. Understanding it with my head, and then feeling with in my heart.

    Not many posts have made me want to do this of late. It’s more than well written with “sticky” ideas. It’s a doorway. A sign post to deeper meaning, and truth. It’s something that has flowed purposefully from deep within you.

    It’s so nice to be “affected” by ideas.

    Thank-you for sharing it with us.

    Best to you and your readers,

    .-= Robin Dickinson´s last blog ..The time-life switch: peak productivity in an instant =-.

  • Hi Robin, thanks so much for the inspiring comments, I’m touched and grateful, it helps me a lot to hear them. I just launched this a month ago yesterday; it’s something I’ve always wanted to do. I’m so glad you stopped by… you just brightened my day, really. Thank you. :)

  • Anna

    U are truly a bright spirit this is awesome… <3 ya chica

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