Living your dreams can seem like a lofty goal. Sure, we all have things we want to achieve, stuff we’d love to accomplish, and dreams we’d love to have come true.
Whether we know what we want, or even if we don’t, sometimes we feel a vague sense of dissatisfaction with life.
It feels like something’s lost… something’s missing.
Perhaps you’re at an in-between place, unsure of the future. Maybe there are circumstances preventing you from living life how you’d really like to. You still go about taking care of your obligations and chores, tasks and responsibilities, but life seems routine and uninspired. Goals begin to lose their luster and nothing seems energizing.
I know when I end up in this place, it means I’ve stopped creating. I’m not talking about creating in the traditional sense. I’m talking about the creativity required to consciously create the life you want, the one of your dreams, day by day, one moment at a time.
I’m not talking about the big things here. They require lots of waiting and some of them may never happen. The biggest things, the things we might feel are lacking and are wishing for most, are really just symbols. Symbols for simpler, more meaningful experiences we can create right now. The stuff happiness is made of.
Creating puts us back in touch with our aliveness. We are all part of that miraculous energy that makes everything new, lighter, and more joyous. Every one of us is co-creating our lives everyday, whether we do it consciously or not. So why not include your dreams in your daily experience?
The trick is to break those big dreams into smaller parts and incorporate those into your life:
Say, for example, you’re longing for a nicer, bigger place to live. If you ask yourself what you’d do once you had that place, what would be different about your life and your day, your answer might look like this: Well, I’d have more space, so I’d be more organized. If I were more organized, I’d have more free time. With my free time, I’d do more things I enjoy. I’d cook more in my nicer kitchen and have more company in my bigger space. The list could go on, but I think you get the idea.
But let’s stop right there. When you think about it, the bigger, nice house is not required. It’s just a symbol your mind has attached to represent the experiences you’re really longing for: more simplicity, more fun at home, more things you enjoy, more company. (Things you can have now). That ingredient list, the things we come up when we question what we’d do if we had what we think we want, is really the stuff of our dreams. It’s usually never the house itself (or whatever else your mind is convinced it needs).
Everyone does this. It’s easy for our minds to do. Sometimes we think we want a new relationship when in reality we’re longing to take better care of ourselves. Sometimes we wish we had more rewarding work but then we realize we’re sacrificing deeper parts of ourselves outside of our jobs rather than in them.
Deep inside, your soul (or the deepest part of you) always knows what you need, and it’s usually always simple. Your mind can (and will) attach something more complex to those needs and create a symbol for them, something you can go out and “attain” or “achieve”.
See what’s beneath those symbols. Question them. Break them open and find out what they contain. Then gather those pieces, forget about “achieving” them, and instead start creating them, today.
Use your imagination. Live those experiences in your life, every day that you can. This way you can experience your dreams, regardless of what you have or don’t have, what you’ve accomplished or what you haven’t. And the best part is, you don’t have to wait, you can do it right now.
Enjoy the little things in life, for one day you may look back
and realize they were the big things. ~Antonio Smith